Did you ever break something that was important to you or to your family? I remember an episode on the The Brady Bunch (see below), where the boys were playing ball in the house and broke their mom’s favorite vase. Rather than fess up they came up with a plan to glue it back together. Of course after a while they get busted and get in trouble. I am sure we have all broken something like that in our lives. The problem is once its broken we tend to think it is now worthless and not worth having around any more. So let’s take a look at what brokenness is.
A lot of times we can feel just as broken about our characters or that nagging bad experience. Often we can let that feeling or event define us. We just cant shake it and we let it rule or govern our spiritual lives to the point of detriment. After all, it does say in the scriptures more than once that brokenness is a good spiritual quality to have right? I want to take a few minutes in this post to help you with what I call a paradigm shift in this area. I think it will entirely change your thinking about how God views broken people. Let’s talk about a Japanese technique called Kintsugi.
In Japan, broken objects are often repaired with gold, the flaw is seen as a unique piece of the objects history which adds to its beauty. Gold is mixed with epoxy and the piece is reconstructed. The kintsugi method conveys a philosophy not of replacement, but of awe, reverence, and restoration. The gold-filled cracks of a once-broken item are a testament to its history. This is a very important philosophy to embrace, we all have history and all of our history is usable by God.
in Japanese culture, “it’s very important that we understand the spiritual backgrounds or the history behind… the material.”
it also has a spiritual side to our human nature
Kintsugi’s first essential practice is to set aside our “stories” we’ve constructed about how impossible it is for us to recover from our devastations, betrayals and losses. And to change our tendency to cling to misfortunes as a way to prove to ourselves and others that we are “damaged goods,” not worthy of love, recognition or success.
Got a story that you keep telling yourself? Do you have a life event that you cannot recover from? Does betrayal or loss of friend or family weigh you down every day to the point that you cannot get close to God? Lots of people consider themselves damaged goods and it effects their insecurities to the point of not growing or changing at all. I have often heard that church is for people that cannot get it together, its for losers, people that need help. I am sure you have heard this too, it should bother you to a point, but it can also be a powerful discussion if you understand the brokenness concept thoroughly.
Earlier I told you they use Gold and epoxy, think about this.
The Gold is:
The Epoxy is Jesus, not only Jesus’ life and teachings but more importantly Jesus on the cross.
So lets put it all together God puts us back together with himself (gold) and Jesus. The two are mixed and form a strong bond. This bond now makes you better and according to God more beautiful, yes I said more beautiful. Look at Psalm 51, the context is David’s brokenness after he was rebuked for his sinful nature. True he was sorrowful, which is a good thing, but the key is to look at God’s response.
17 My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit;
a broken and contrite heart
you, God, will not despise.
God does not despise you because of brokenness, in fact its inspiring. People that follow Jesus and constantly change or repair themselves with God’s help are inspiring, not damaged. In fact I would emphasize that the individuals who have been disciples the longest have the most mileage. If you were to look back over David’s exploits and his life even after his sin, you will see that he certainly did not live as a man who let his past rule his present. The most interesting part of all this is the world always loves a good comeback story or a feel good story. We love the man or woman who makes a comeback, we love the person who gets destroyed and rebuilds themselves. Great movies, great quotes, great respect and great recognition goes to people that do that without God. How much better are we who do it with God? Broken pieces are stronger, broken pieces are better. God always uses damaged people to do amazing things, not only is there no attempt to hide the damage, but the repair is literally illuminated..
Consider this when you feel broken
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